Friday, October 1, 2010

Ghossts

heh, ghosts from my past that is. On facebook I had some drama a few months ago. Not sure if you remember it so I'll refresh your memory. ;) Here's the background. Before Sushiboy I dated a lot of boys. Thankfully I chose the right one. This is a story about one of the wrong ones. humm, we'll call him running man. Here's the long and short, we were in college, we met at a college dance, and started dating. He was really handsome, short, but handsome. But, a few months into our relationship he suddenly didn't want to sit by me or touch me, or anything like that. We broke up. I moved on. Got engaged to a total idiot who I thankfully didn't marry and when idiot and I got unengaged running man almost immediately got back in touch with me. Apparently, he had been keeping tabs on me. We got back together, but after just a few weeks of dating, he brought up marriage to me. I was not at all looking to get married. I had just ended an engagement for heavens sake. Not at all in my radar. So, this time I broke up with him and I moved on. Met Sushiboy eventually and we have been happily together now for the last eleven years.

About a year or so ago I got a friend request from running man. I hesitated, I thought over it for a few weeks. I'm a little old fashioned in that I believe it's best to be very guarded with members of the opposite sex. You can be friends with them, it's just best not to be "BFF's". I think that is the way a lot of affairs start. Some things you don't share with the opposite sex. I checked his profile and saw he was married which helped me make my decision to allow him to be my friend. I figured if he tried to strike up some kind of close friendship I would just unfriend him. I really had no interest in him or in his life. But, I didn't want to be a jerk either so I accepted his friendship.

Fast forward to about 6 months ago. One day, I go to check my facebook page. I see a message from someone I don't know. Cautiously, I opened it. It was some woman chewing me out for being "rude". Confused, I replied. "I'm not really sure who you are and how I was rude but whatever I did I apologize." She then told me she had told her husband (running man) to talk to me and that I had told him to leave me alone. I told her that I had never talked to her husband and perhaps she had me confused with someone else. She then told me I needed to get over myself because I was not all that and that I lost a great man and I was a total loser. Confused again I told her I promise I never chatted with your husband, I've never said I was all that and mabey one of my kids was on my profile. I tell them not to talk to people if chat's come up. She then told me "whatever, you know what you did and don't worry he "unfriended" you anyways, you're not worth his time." Of course I was HEARTBROKEN (sarcasm) over him unfriending me. But, to avoid future chewing out I thought I better ask my kids if something had happened. hee hee. Here's what happened. Running man tried to chat with me. Cookie replied "can't I be alone?". And running man and his wife went into a tissy. I told her what had happened, told him what had happened because I figured with a wife like that she wouldn't tell him what had happened. And that has become my cautionary tale about facebook.

Today, he again asked to be my friend. I think this falls into the "not only no, but hell no" category. I don't need the drama, I don't need to be abused and called names by his wife if I accidently "hurt his feelbads", and I really want nothing to do with him.

Here's my question to you, what do you think? Am I making the right decision? Because I think some ghosts are better left buried.

7 comments:

leslie the licorice stick lady said...

I totally totally agree! I had to unfriend a friend once because she turned into a bad girl, as in my husband wouldn't even dare open my facebook page because she had questionable material on her page. She used to be married and in our BYU ward with two kids and a great husband. It's too bad she went off the deep end. It's not worth my time I'm sorry to say.

Katie said...

Don't do it!! Not worth it. And don't feel bad ... I've ignored dozens of friend requests because I just don't feel like I know them that well. I'm much more "picky" now than when I first started FB.

bon said...

Meh... I think you made the right call. NOBODY needs dramz like that, bleah. I mean, if you were talking about a relative, ya kinda have to put up with plenty for a relative... but some random irrelevant past boyfriend? PPPPBBT!

Superwoman said...

good to know I'm on the right track. Thanks all. :)

Matt said...

You said it was his wife, right? Not his Mommy? What a spineless jellyfish. I think Cookie had it right. Forget that guy!

Superwoman said...

Matt- yep, it was his wife. The baby. Oh, I'm done with him, I already forgot about him. He was the one who wanted to enter my life again. I was over him about, um, 12 years ago. ;)

Mel said...

I agree with your take on being friends with the opposite sex. They sound crazy anyway i wouldnt worry about it. its kinda funny though "cant i be alone?" hehehe