Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Sour Cakes

Normally our cakes is such a sweet, good girl, she has her off days, but we all do. Lately however, she has been a total nightmare. And it's only getting worse. We have had meltdowns that have lasted for 20-40 minutes at least once a day. Nothing can consol her, I can't handle listening to her scream and follow me around so she gets timeouts in her room. After she is done she is usually fine, we talk about things and I hope they will get better but then the next day we have another meltdown. I am so tired, I don't have a ton of patience for her issues right now. I realize this is normal and such but what can I do to make her realize we will love her no matter what, new baby and all. I don't want to condone the fits so I ignore the bad behaviors, when she is good I have been trying to spend extra time with her and to tell her even more than normal that I love her. But quite frankly, I'm reaching the end of my rope. I know there are experienced mothers out there that have delt with this issue. Cookie was never this bad, the only problems I had were that he would act out while I was nursing cakes, other than that he could care less. Of course, they were only 23 months apart and not 4 1/2 years apart. HELP!!! I need to know how best to handle this! I'm trying to be patient and stick with our boundaries and giving extra love when she is behaving but this doesn't seem to be doing the trick. So, any advice would be great because I am too tired to think of a new solution.

6 comments:

Lisita said...

This is one area I'll have to come to you for advice one day. Follow your gut and stay consistent with what you are doing and I'll pray it's just a quick stage she's going through! Hang in there!

bon said...

I got nuthin'.

leslie the licorice stick lady said...

You're doing what I do. I think it's just a phase. Try some soft music and set a time each day for just her and Mommy time whee your doing something one-on-one. She knows life is going to not be centered around her anymore as soon as #3 comes, so it's really important that she knows she's loved. Maybe you've tried this, but that's the best I could think of

Nobody™ said...

Based on my experiences, girls are just nothing but trouble.

Superwoman said...

thanks all, I think we seem to be coming out of this S L O W L Y, today the tantrum was shorter than usual and she understood that it wouldn't get her what she wanted. It seems this is quite normal, hopefully it ends soon!

groovyoldlady said...

Sounds to me like you're doing just what you should. I had jealousy issues with the first 2, but my second two have had no difficulties unless Silly-Head gets sick and gets extra attention. Then Girly-Girl becomes a monster. Yes, even at nine.

Oy.